Reading isn’t so much a hobby for me as it is a lifestyle. It isn’t that I want to read. It’s that I have to read. If I go more than a few days without sticking my nose in a book, I’m going to be a mess — a cranky, stressed-out mess. (Just ask my poor husband.)
There are scientific studies that show the benefits of reading. It can increase intelligence, make you more empathetic, help you relax, and even prevent Alzheimers. There is even a new wave of book therapy called bibliotherapy, where books are subscribed to patients based on their needs to promote healing. If I’m ever going to be diagnosed with a disease, I hope it includes reading as a treatment.
I prefer to read because it’s fun and relaxing, but it’s also stimulating and broadens my horizons. Books — no matter the genre — can have an impact in a reader’s life. That’s why I wanted to share five quotes from novels that have helped me with my anxiety. And (*gasp*) most of them are from romance novels.
1. “Just breathe,” my mom would say, “Ten tiny breaths… Seize them. Feel them. Love them.” – Ten Tiny Breaths by K.A. Tucker
Ten Tiny Breaths was the first New Adult novel I ever read. It was raw and moving and you can read my review HERE. The idea of taking deep breaths while facing a stressful situation isn’t new. However, when I face real-life difficult situations, I remember Kacey and what she faced and this quote. It reminds me to breathe, truly breathe to get through the moment and move on. If Kacey can survive what she did, I can make it through a tough Monday.
2. “I hate losing, but I don’t allow myself more than ten minutes to dwell on it…”You have ten minutes,” he told me. “Ten minutes to think about what you did wrong and how bad you feel right now. Are you ready?”…”There. It’s over now,” he said. “Now you look forward and figure out how you’re going to get better.” I fucking loved my dad.” – The Score by Elle Kennedy
I recently finished The Score, and it’s what inspired this blog post because I thought it was really good advice. Anyone who knows me knows that I have very high standards. And no one is held to a higher standard than myself. It doesn’t matter if it’s in my personal life or professional one. I want to be the best, and sometimes that drive, that ambition, tears me apart. I’m working to be a less stressed, less uptight version of myself and that includes limiting the time I spend beating myself up after a failure. Ten minutes seems to be the perfect amount of time to dwell, brood, sulk and wallow, and when it’s over, it’s time to get on with my life.
3. “I squeeze my eyes shut and try to blink away the pressure behind them. Five things, my father’s voice echoes inside my head. Find five things you can smell, hear, see, and touch. Ground yourself, Sasha.” – Reaper by A. Zavarelli
Reaper was an okay story, but I loved this idea of finding five things to ground yourself when fear, anxiety or panic overwhelm you. When the smallest things feel like big things and the ant hills turn into Everests, I remember to find five things to ground myself and it helps me to put things back into perspective. It puts me back in the present, away from my fears of the future or pain of the past. It puts me back in the moment instead of stuck in my own head.
4. “Let go and you will see.” –The Dandelion Seed by Joesph Anthony
The Dandelion Seed is my favorite children’s book. I still read it to this day when life gets overwhelming. It’s the story of a Dandelion seed that is afraid to let go and go out into the world…into the unknown of the future. Every time uncertainty clamps down tight on my heart, I remember this book or read through it to remind myself to let go. God is in control and I will see at the end of everything that it will all work out for the best.
5. “Don’t feel bad for one moment about doing what brings you joy.”
― A Court of Thorns and Roses by Sarah J. Maas
For me, anxiety creeps up when I don’t have time for all the things I need to do because I spend time doing things that I love, that I enjoy. This quote from my all-time favorite author and book series (Read my reviews HERE and HERE) helps remind me to never feel bad about that because it does bring me joy. And if SJM said it, it must be true. 🙂
What about you? Any book quotes that help you in life?